Suffering is when you do not accept reality..

A deep learning I received today from a good old friend. As usual we were discussing several things under the sun when the topic of suffering came up.  There are so many who are in pain, in suffering and in turn hurting themselves and others. As I mentioned this my friend said suffering is when we don’t accept reality… when we do not let go…When we persist on ‘holding’ then we automatically suffer. Such wisdom in the words. When we face death, hurt, betrayal we do not let it go. We engulf ourselves in the pain. Since it is very difficult to let go, our body and mind gets used to pampering us with the pain. We get entangled in the pain. It becomes addictive. Then we suffer- suffer from headaches to acidity, ulcers to cancer.