learnings

Every other day we hear of 1. friendship going stale 2. relationship going sour 3. children turning against parents 4. colleagues overthrowing one another 5. politicians squabbling 6. religion blinding and binding us At the end of it all lies the murky word EGO. The accessories are power and wealth. The famous old tale comes to mind,' what is it that we try to possess: land/air/water? They belong to none and yet to all. For mere the coin we draw blood..'

  Your mind is already made up that it wants you to heal. Listen to your inner voice. Recently a client of mine walked into my office feeling so deflated and miserable. As I listened to her with total positive regard and unconditional acceptance. I could sense a wave of relief in her voice. All she wanted was to be heard. To be heard without getting advice thrown at her… It was then she realised that she wanted someone to listen to her without being judgemental. Her inner voice wanted her to heal. At the end of the session she walked out a happier person. When you have decided to visit a Counsellor, your mind has decided that it wants you on the path to recovery. Often  we ignore our inner voice. This voice or our intuition steers us and guides us. we then make attempts to heal or recover on our own. this is excellent but very often when the external noises pull us down, we may need help. It is OK to seek help.

  Since I have started or rather re-started my exercise regime, I have been mindful of my eating. In the process I have learnt that - 1. It is easier to eat slow- I normally wolf down my breakfast. I am always in a tearing hurry to finish my meal and head out. I have tried earlier to reverse this habit. When we are mindful of what goes into us, we eat slower. Eating slowly is excellent for watching the calories and for our system. 2. We are careful of what we eat. Needless to say we become automatically careful of what we eat. This helps us to cut down on junk food. I greedily eyed a laddu the other day but ate just half of it! Today I managed to avoid eating the sweet! 3. We relish the food and feel fuller. We relish every morsel. we experience the taste. we take in the fragrance. we appreciate the texture. By now we feel 80% full. This is when we can STOP eating. By now our brain registers the feeling as FULL. 4. it gives you ‘your space, your time to think, ruminate’ Voila

We  Indians are known for our noisy behaviour. We talk loudly even in public places be it the bus, the train, plane and even in places of worship. Whether we are talking to each other or on the phone, the entire neighbourhood will know. A peaceful meal at a restaurant or a bout of peaceful exercising at the gym is a dream. Recently I have begun to workout at a gym inside the premises of a popular club. There is this lady who talks dime a dozen from her jewellery collection to her family politics ( and that of others too). She is so loud that her voice penetrates through my headphones!!.. She tried to strike conversation with me. I was not at my friendliest best. So she got the message and does not disturb me. I did not feel guilty in shutting her off as I needed my peace and my time to exercise. It is ok to say NO.