RIP Sherine Mathew
It was with great pain I read about the death of the little girl Sherine aka Saraswathi in USA. The child had some special needs and the adopted parents failed in their duties to understand her and parent accordingly. One may ask if they were her biological parents would they have done so. Well there is no clear cut answer. Biological parents have also been known to be harmful to their wards. Parenting is no easy task. Yet society puts tremendous pressure on couples to become parents. It is a crime towards the child. It is amazing to note how we think that parenting comes naturally. Maternal or parental instincts may be present naturally in most of us. But parenting is not instinct. It is a task that comes with huge responsibility. To be responsible means one has to devote time and effort. Here effort is engagement- engagement with focused attention. So before considering having a child biologically or via adoption the couple has to consider if they are physically, mentally , emo