Values and transformation

 Human behaviour is fascinating. Of course nature and nurture play 'the' role. Amongst various factors that shape our lives are the values we adopt. 

Often I see people sticking to values they had adopted at a different phase of life. They feel sticking to them is a matter of pride. This ensues in bitterness around and yet they are not willing to let go. Here I saw a fixed mindset. The common word we use for this would be ego- ego mania.

Values will change as we go through life. Some values lessen or increase in the usage. So when do we know we have to change:

1.When relationships around us are getting hampered;-Here the simple test is to note if people around us are happy and communicating with us. Are we able to just pick up the thread and talk without any added frills. 

2. If your value comes in the way you are viewing the others- are all around you appear to be negative and evil? 

We do not always need a natural disaster, pandemic or death for us to express the love we have for the other. It is always strange for me to see people who have gone through a disaster/pandemic continuing to disrespect life. It is always a source of fascination- this rigidity in mindset.

At such instances my resolve strengthens to be the opposite. For example, keeping family (extended) rises above conflicts that typically arise due to material assets.