Like interests, like values
Often we hear that Opposites attract. It maybe so. Yet in a relationship, any relationship, it is more important to have 'like values' and a a few 'like interests'.
In our daily lives it is very practical to have partners, spouses and colleagues who have values and interests (at least a few) similar to ours. For this means we can spend quality time together.
This works out very effectively in marriages. A typical scenario in an urban marriage in my city is : the husband hangs out with his friends at least once a week while the wife is at home. She gets irritable by the minute. He watches cricket while she watches serials. He prefers a particular cuisine so she sacrifices her tastes. This applies to movie genre too. He likes to sleep early while she likes to read. She likes to surf the net while he works even at home so both are in different rooms. One likes to travel in a group while the other wants to travel just as a couple. Where is the conversation, the teasing, the laughter and hanging out? Over a period of time, especially during their middle ages they would have nothing exciting to talk or do together.
Here is another scenario where a couple love to hang out together binge watching a serial or movies. They spend quality time over weekends, chilling out together.
Just one interest makes a whale of a difference.
In our daily lives it is very practical to have partners, spouses and colleagues who have values and interests (at least a few) similar to ours. For this means we can spend quality time together.
This works out very effectively in marriages. A typical scenario in an urban marriage in my city is : the husband hangs out with his friends at least once a week while the wife is at home. She gets irritable by the minute. He watches cricket while she watches serials. He prefers a particular cuisine so she sacrifices her tastes. This applies to movie genre too. He likes to sleep early while she likes to read. She likes to surf the net while he works even at home so both are in different rooms. One likes to travel in a group while the other wants to travel just as a couple. Where is the conversation, the teasing, the laughter and hanging out? Over a period of time, especially during their middle ages they would have nothing exciting to talk or do together.
Here is another scenario where a couple love to hang out together binge watching a serial or movies. They spend quality time over weekends, chilling out together.
Just one interest makes a whale of a difference.
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