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  A child breaks a cup/ a child snacks when he is not supposed to.. common scenarios. Is the child bad? Has he or she said ‘no’ when you confronted? Is he or she lying? Does it make him/her bad? The children aren’t bad neither are all lies bad! All lies aren’t even lies!! Why do children lie? Do attempt to make a difference between lying and make-believe. Children below five years are prone to make up things as an extension of their creative minds. They love to live in a fantasy world. It is part of their wishful thinking when they say things like,’ I was the best at school’/ ‘all are having pets’! To Avoid Hurting Someone After the age of 10 children are usually aware of the black and white. Adults use the ‘white lie’ option a lot to escape unfavourable situations and to be diplomatic. Children observe this and absorb the behaviour and use it. Peer Pressure This is universal. Children ‘always’ want to fit in. It is imperative they are accepted in their friends’ circle, the ‘gang’...

I am dismayed that you had to utter such nonsense. I am not surprised though. Though you live in New York, your heart belongs to the typical Indian male. Why is it I wonder that you men only think of justifying your actions either individually or on behalf of your gender. Freud has theorized that this is called rationalization. Why is it that no man has been MAN enough ( excepting Pritish Nandy) to caution men from indulging in ogling/abusing/voyerism etc? It is always us, ironically the victim here, who are implicated! In all other crimes the perpetrator is questioned/taken to task/reprimanded/punished. Today’s paper carries an article of a middle aged man having sexually assaulted a three year old baby girl. Was the child wearing jeans? Was she sensually dressed? Was she showing skin? Why don’t you men just live and let live? Do women tell you men what to wear?  That mundu reveals skin/ That facial hair is disgusting/ That you flaunt your paunches is ugh/ We are not pets to...

  3 of us women friends decided to go on a heritage trip. We went through several touristy stuff. It was then we realised that a young friend of ours had been on this ‘different’ trip with a new upcoming group http://www.f5escapes.com/about/ . Intrigued we began communication with Malini of f5 escapes. Communication exchange was prompt. All the arrangements were taken care of without a hitch. we took the double decker train to Bangalore from Chennai. It is a good train to travel in. Food is sold in plenty so we never went hungry. The train is also maintained well. Seats are like the economy class of a low cost airline. We got off at Bangalore and rested for a couple of hours at the nearest YMCA. The evening train Gol Gumbaz express arrived on time and transported us to Badami.  It is wise to get a porter for Rs 120 at Bangalore station as we have to negotiate climbs up and down. Badami station looked run down. I couldn't believe that this quaint place was once the thriving...