learnings

The other day a lady ( some years younger to me ) refused to answer my calls or messages. I was actually wondering why she was not answering me though I had mentioned that it was urgent. I soon got to know that she could not talk to me if her spouse was at home. It also reminded me ironically that she had pointed out sometime back that her spouse did not like her talking to me!! I laughed aloud. Even in today's age a man can control his woman and control whom she should speak to or not!! The woman also acquiesces!! Now this man's reaction was familiar. I have had such comments coming from quite a few women friends in the past. Though then the scapegoats were their parents. My friend's parents felt that if their girls cut their hair or wore a modern outfit  it was because of my influence!!What is it about me that  they fear?? That their women would become bolder, smarter??That they would become independent/ voracious readers/ eloquent speakers/poe...

Why do we believe in mumbo jumbo? A cat crossed my path / don't call me when I am leaving home/ god forbid if you sneeze when I am off on a job/ the cot must be plced in the east west direction/ don't sleep with your head towards south/// aaah how many beliefs!! The list is endless. As we growe acquire all this mumbo jumbo from our parents, friends and school. Through generations these beliefs are passed on. Sometimes it is so amusing if we pause to thing on the rationale. Amidst all this crazed living, the various religious faiths throw in many such in good measure. When we are the so called most intelligent creatures why do we defy logic? Oops did I say something wrong?? The lizard is making the familiar tic tic sound so what I say is true!! lol!!

Are our politicians waking up to the Internet only of late? It is strange, amusing and scary.. Twitter posts and Facebook statuses are landing people in jail!! Is this really my country where freedom of speech is my birthright? Earlier books and movies were targeted by politicians. So it is of no surprise that they have turned to the Internet as its reach is global. But are they so insecure? Why are they taking it so personal ? Somebody commented that maybe they are not educated.. Ah that is not the case as educated politicians are responding in the same manner. Or are they so scared of truth? Very soon the jails would overflow. I am wondering if I should study for law and become a lawyer as there would be plenty of cases to work on!!

Recently I heard a couple proudly claiming that their 14 year old son shares the same room and horrors of horror, even the same bed!!! The smug grin on their faces could put a Cheshire cat to shame!! Anything that is not in moderation even love KILLS!! such a relationship in psychology is called enmeshed relationship Parents ought to realize that there are 2 phases in a child's life when he/she needs autonomy and space to blossom  - at the age of 2 years and then when the individual attains puberty. Only then the individual is able to form his/her OWN identity. To quote Khalil Gibran, Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not your thoughts, For they have their own thoughts. You may house their bodies but not their souls, For their souls dwel...

Art is the signature of civilisation - I read this quote in the Office today. Instantly pictures of heritage buildings being vandalised come to my mind.  We are so obsessed with writing our names on walls . Yet we do nothing to make our names go down in the annals of history. We admire our superficial self- our body / complexion.. Yet we do nothing to have a beautiful inner self!

RIP CHEF JACOB- I had always been intrigued by Chef Jacob's creativity and his indomitable spirit. I cannot believe he is no more. Just 37 and he succumbed to cardiac arrest..Yet again life teaches us lessons.. Savour life. SLOW down. I have this habit of eating very fast. Now I am consciously slowing down. What about you? Do read more on him at  http://www.thehindu.com/life-and-style/Food/jacobs-kitchen-no-more/article4067380.ece