Patriarchal? Really ? Ha ha
Some three decades ago I used to read and watch movies where the wife would be subservient to the autocratic husband and further be dependent on the son. None of the stories and movies had a happy ending. Well I am writing from my personal memory and as a reader you are free to challenge, discuss, debate, agree or disagree.
This morning as friend ( Male ) And me were chatting we observed the changes in family values. With amusement we noted how women ( our mothers) actually dominated their men ( in their own subtle/ direct manner and more so heavily post retirement of the menfolk).
What amused us more was the fact that in a nation of ‘son’ lovers, given the choice parents prefer to stay in the daughters house than their sons. ( again pls note that we are from the south of India). The kitchen domain when belonging to the daughter is easier to manoeuver than that of a daughter in law!!! We laughed over the fact that we may be a Patriarchal society but in our hearts and for all practical purposes we are matriarchal. He concluded saying Keralaites were so way ahead in this matter. But let me not get into the Kerala narrative now. That was an outsider view. I shall not analyse or dissect because this came out of a causal conversation.
This morning as friend ( Male ) And me were chatting we observed the changes in family values. With amusement we noted how women ( our mothers) actually dominated their men ( in their own subtle/ direct manner and more so heavily post retirement of the menfolk).
What amused us more was the fact that in a nation of ‘son’ lovers, given the choice parents prefer to stay in the daughters house than their sons. ( again pls note that we are from the south of India). The kitchen domain when belonging to the daughter is easier to manoeuver than that of a daughter in law!!! We laughed over the fact that we may be a Patriarchal society but in our hearts and for all practical purposes we are matriarchal. He concluded saying Keralaites were so way ahead in this matter. But let me not get into the Kerala narrative now. That was an outsider view. I shall not analyse or dissect because this came out of a causal conversation.
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