learnings

As a society and community we are in a constant flux.   A few years ago I remember a colleague asking me if I would ever accept it if my son declared that he was a homosexual. Without blinking and without even pausing to think I said from the heart that I would accept unconditionally. I would accept my child as he or she is. Often I come across parents who are stuck at the bottom levels of Maslow’s pyramid – that of prestige and honor. They do not even try to upgrade themselves. How can one expect the child to upgrade him or herself? I happened to read an interview given by Ricky Kej (for those who don’t know he has bagged the Best New Age Album Award at the Grammy this year). It pained me to read how he had to strike a deal with his father that Post High school, Ricky would do his dentistry degree provided he would be allowed to pursue music full time. (Obviously children are financially dependent on us till..)This scenario will keep repeating in different families acros...

One / two/ three ?? This is a constant worry factor for parents- how many children we ought to have? Of course factors like social, economical  and family play a vital role in taking this decision. Just as any other organization, if all the members are good team players and if the family runs a smooth course, it is good to have a big family. What happens if a life event occurs? Please note that this is strictly my opinion and based on personal stories. Indian parents normally prefer more than one child. The constant refrain is even if something happens ( note: here something means death) there is still one more. The ‘safety in numbers’ stood tall. But mind you, THIS IS JUST NOT SO!!   If a life event like death strikes once of the children, then the other one cannot ever compensate. There is always the elephant in the room.

Up on the dark dark sky She hung like a huge pearl. The Mona Lisa smile she gave As I looked up in reverence! I trembled and quivered At the tentacles of darkness. Laughter bubbled within I rose to dance and twirl Twirl and twirl Taking the world with me…